Remember, your child wants to make you happy and for you to think that they are smart. They don’t want to disappoint you, so it is difficult for them to let you see them struggle.
Don’t tell your child they just have to “try harder” if they want to learn something. The way they have been shown to do the task is not working. They need to be retaught the information in a new way instead of the same way over again.
Take a moment to remember what it was like for you when you have struggled to learn something new. Remember the feelings you had and what helped you succeed. This can help you empathize with what your child is going through.
Tell your child about a time that you struggled with learning something and how you stuck with it. Letting your child know that you have struggled and were to get through it by working hard, will help them understand that struggling is part of life. It will let them know that you understand because you have been through it too.
Try to figure out what the root of the problem is. As students get older their school works get more difficult and one assignment will require them to work on many skills. You need to figure out which skills the assignment requires and which of these skills your child needs support in.
Ask your child about what they find hard at school and if they have any ideas about how things could be made easier.
Make a list of the concerns you have for your child’s learning and make an appointment with their teacher to discuss these concerns.
Schedule appointments to have your child’s hearing and vision checked. It is important to make sure that these are not the underlying causes of your child’s struggles.
Your most important job is to be their parent. It can be hard for parents to also play the role of a teacher. Be very conscious about the tension that may arise when you are working with and know when it is time to stop.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it. There are many different organizations that can help you better understand your child’s needs.